I have to say, it’s a good thing I have the opportunity to talk to lots of parents on a regular basis, if for no other reason than because I’m able to reassure myself that I’m not the only parent having conversations like this one:

Me:     “You can’t wear shorts today.”

Child who shall go nameless: “Why not?”

Me:     “It’s winter, and it’s too cold outside for shorts.”

Child (still wearing shorts):    “So?! I’m not cold.”

Me:     “It’s not just a little cold. It’s frigid outside. As in snow temperature. As in it’s sub-zero wind chill and like the arctic tundra outside. Now go change!”

Child (still not changing):        “But mom, WHY?!”

Me:     “Because I give people parenting advice for a living, and if you don’t, you’ll make me look bad, so end of discussion – go change!”

I have to admit that there’s some irony to me telling my children to change into long pants or go put on a winter coat. After all, I grew up in the Midwest and I was actually known all throughout college for not wearing a coat – even when walking outdoors between classes during winters spent at the University of Michigan. In fact, last winter I passed a college friend on the streets of NYC who I hadn’t seen in almost a decade. He later told me that the only reason he hadn’t stopped me to say hello was because I was wearing a coat, so he figured it couldn’t possibly be me!

Okay, so now I’ve owned up to my own history of dressing inappropriately for the cold weather. But that doesn’t change anything when it comes to the parenting advice I’m about to share with you. The fact of the matter is that cold weather (like what we get here in Nebraska) can be dangerous, young children are especially susceptible to the cold, and it’s our duty as parents to insure our children’s health and safety in warm and cold weather alike. While it’s not actually true (except in more extreme instances) that being cold makes you “catch a cold,” there are definitely instances such as hypothermia and frostbite that most certainly can result from being inappropriately dressed for the weather.

With this in mind, the following information, excerpted from the American Academy of Pediatrics’ Winter Safety Tips, will hopefully help you better determine which cold-weather clothing battles are worth fighting. Don’t let it deter you if your children try to give you the cold shoulder after you lay down the law. Instead of resorting to “because I said so,” you too can feel free to justify your “request” that your child go put his shorts away until at least March (if not May) by simply saying, “Because Dr. Laura and the American Academy of Pediatrics say so!”

  • Dress infants and children warmly for outdoor activities. Several thin layers will keep them dry and warm. Don’t forget warm boots, gloves or mittens, and a hat
  • The rule of thumb for older babies and young children is to dress them in one more layer of clothing than an adult would wear in the same conditions
  • Hypothermia develops when a child’s temperature falls below normal due to colder temperatures. It often happens when a youngster is playing outdoors in extremely cold weather without wearing proper clothing or when clothes get wet. It can occur more quickly in children than in adults
  • Frostbite happens when the skin and outer tissues become frozen. This condition tends to happen on extremities like the fingers, toes, ears and nose. They may become pale, gray and blistered. At the same time, the child may complain that his/her skin burns or has become numb.

Originally posted on Omaha World Herald’s Live Well Nebraska

A Parent’s Guide to Safe Holiday Travel with Kids

The season for holiday travel is almost upon us, so I thought it best to get down to basics and share some safe and practical travel tips for everyone facing the prospect of packing up the family car or heading off to the airport this holiday season. While I’m all about practicality, I also want to make sure that safety doesn’t inadvertently get left behind (or just plain forgotten) as you set out to share the holidays with family and friends.

Avoid flying objects. While car travel certainly eliminates some of the stress of figuring out how to fit everything you and your children will need for your holiday vacation into a single suitcase (or two), don’t lose sight of the fact that anything in the car that isn’t safely secured can, in the blink of an eye, become a dangerous projectile in the event of a crash. This not only includes unrestrained passengers, but any suitcases and other holiday “essentials” you bring along. To keep all passengers safe, keep all loose objects out of the passenger area of the car – tucked in the trunk or otherwise secured.

Use appropriate restraint. All too often, parents are tempted to compromise on car seats in the name of streamlined travel and efficiency. But the fact of the matter is child passenger safety never takes a holiday. That means that for anyone traveling by car, each and every passenger needs to be appropriately restrained.

  • For infants and children, this includes age-appropriate, correctly installed car seats.
  • Lap-shoulder belts need to be available for all adult passengers, as well as any children riding in booster seats. Simply using a lap belt alone doesn’t suffice when it comes to safety.
  • For those traveling by air, not only should you plan carefully so that your child can be safely restrained on the airplane (which means an FAA approved car safety seat or restraint for all children under 40 pounds), but also at your destination.
  • While most car rental agencies can arrange in advance to have car seats available, it always safest to plan on bringing your own. It may mean more to carry, but car seats are a must-have for holiday travel.

Dress for the occasion. It’s obviously important to make sure that you pack plenty of clothing to suit the climate of wherever you’re headed – especially given that young children are known to be more susceptible to both hot and cold temperatures.

  • For car travel, remember to consider what you’d want to have on hand should your car break down or get stuck along the way. While it’s not recommended that children wear bulky winter coats under their car seat harness straps (since this just adds slack into the harness system), you absolutely want to have coats on hand for any planned (or unplanned) stops along the way.
  • And as someone very accustomed to airplane travel, I can assure you that the most predictable thing about the temperature in the airplane cabin is its unpredictability. Not only is it wise to dress your child (and yourself) in layers, but bring a few extra items in your carry on.

Keep close tabs. Holiday travel inevitably throws off parenting routines. This means that you’ll want to pay extra attention to keeping a close eye on your child.

  • When traveling by car, never leave your child alone or unattended – even for a minute, no matter how much extra time or effort it may take to have the whole family pile out of the car for what you were hoping would be a very quick pit stop.
  • Whether on the road or in the air, also make sure your children have some form of identification with them, that preschoolers (and older) ideally know their own names (first and last) and a phone number, and that you have discussed with your children what to do in the event that you become separated.
  • If your children have already entered the digital age and have cell phones, this is a great time to have them on hand as well.

Originally posted on Omaha World Herald’s Live Well Nebraska